Body shaming Wars

I write this as I read another article trying to describe the perfect body size. In the age of social media, selfies and Instagram swallowing us up like a storm, every little thing is put under scrutiny, masses are experts on what’s right and the keyboard gods sit behind their screens hiding from the world passing judgments on all, without a thought of what the end result may be. Body shaming is the new internet trend, too fat, too thin, too short, too tall and an endless list of how we objectify and degrade human beings. As many titles are made in defence of body-types, just as many bullies keep picking on people and making fun of them.

It’s depressing and infuriating that even in this age, we are still stuck in the voids of our selfish desires of validating ourselves by bringing someone else down. The human capacity to ruin others like them knows no bounds, I don’t have to quote any examples, the internet is flooded with stories of people being bullied by strangers, people siting million miles away, why? Oh because the person doesn’t falls into the ‘right body type’ as per their criteria. The immense pressure to look good, to lose weight, to have the perfect body spreads like a fire destroying anything that tries to come in its way.

So I ask you, where are we headed with this? Don’t we have enough damaged people already? In this war of labeling bodies, what is that we wish to achieve? While we all rant and rave about freedom, we rip it apart from others and in process from ourselves too.

Freedom is tinted and shadowed under our delusional definitions that provide us the luxury of stepping on toes of others, self loathing is too much of a burden to live with, don’t do that to others. Let people be, let them breathe and live. It’s easier to be part of the crowd, it’s an endless struggle to be on the other side but next time before we point and laugh at others, let us take a minute and think, if it was us on the other side instead of them and maybe, just maybe, some of us will swallow our hateful words.

Friends

In a world full of darkness
Some people make life easier
Just as some who make it hell
Funny though both are friends
A pat on the back from him
Makes the day less shadowed
A joke he cracked last week
Still brings a smile on my face
A 4 a.m. call for a heart to heart
Things that can’t be said in light
The trust that connected us like
Magnets finding way to each other
But just as many can ruin the day
The mocking tone to disregard
The casual disdain in tone as we
Talk about my life is a routine now
Silent and indifferent simultaneously
Like a pendulum that has no end
Friends feel like random people
Distancing is better for at the end
Of the tunnel disappointment awaits

Of Dragon’s and Dardo’s

Hi All!

I cannot say enough thank-yous for the award nominations that keep coming my way!, One of my lovelies, Kri and the bravest, Hbhatnagar nominated me for the “Dragon’s loyalty Award”, it’s an award for the loyal fan/commenter, whether the recipient is a fellow blogger or just someone who follows and comments regularly.

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Thank-you, both of you, I’m honoured. All these nominations mean a lot :). Kri, I’m sorry for taking this long to respond (Yes! been over 2 weeks now, my apologies)


The Premio Dardos
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As you all know by know, My Kri is super generous in distributing the awards and not only did she nominate me for the Dragon’s Loyalty Award, she also nominated me for “Permio Dardos Award“, it  is given from one blogger to another, in recognition of cultural, ethical, literary and personal values that are transmitted in the form of creative and original writing. Thank-you Kri, for all the love and constant support 🙂


Rules for the Awards

1. Thank the giver and link their blog to your post.
2. Pass the award on to other bloggers of your choice and let them know that they have been nominated.
3. Give 7 facts about yourself.


7 Facts about myself

1. I never say ‘No’, which also means that most of the time, I end up juggling with more than I can handle.
2. I love Nando’s chocolate cake (A little too much!)
3. I’m a chai (Tea) addict.
4. I see things as black or white, not gray.
5. The best time of the day for me is when the world sleeps and I stay up.
6. I love reading, so much so that even before I finish the books in hand, I go buy new ones so that I never have to run out of reading material.
7. I have a gift of hiding my emotions quite well, even the closest of my people rarely would know, what goes on in my head.


My Nominations for both the awards

1. Dan
2. Will
3. Prateek
4. Mani
5. Naima
6. Blondeusk
7. Michelle
8. Paul
9. Annie
10. Sumyanna


Note: As always, the nominations are open and there are no obligation to accept them, if you can participate though, it will be great 🙂

Thank-you & Blessings
B

Brotherhood Award

Hola people!

I have been yet again nominated by one of my favourite and loveliest blogger Kri for the “Brotherhood Award”, thank-you so much for all the love and I can’t thank-you enough for the award nomination.


The rules of the award:

1) Thank and link back to the person who nominated you for the award.
2) List the Rules and Display the Brotherhood of the world Award logo to your post and/or blog.
3) Answer the questions set to you and then you may create your set of questions for your nominees.
4) Nominate around ten other bloggers and let them know about the award.


Below is the list of questions asked from the nominations:

1. You are given the responsibility to bring global peace, how will you do that?

Answer: I would probably refuse such a responsibility, realistically the world has people who are shades of ‘grey’, and as long as even one person is working for their own benefit, it will cost something to to another, there will be no peace. At most, I can only promise to do my part.

2. Did blogging improve your life in any way?

Answer: Yes, it did. I got a place to call “home” ❤

3. You can do anything you want for 3 hours, what would you do?

Answer: Nowadays, catch up on sleep (haha!) generally though read and be left alone in silence.

4. Reading or writing, given you’ll be paid for reading?

Answer: Writing and Reading, both I do for the “peace” it brings. Nothing it has, has got to with money. So pay me or not, I will always be doing both, can’t just read because I was being paid and not write.

5. An idea of a perfect life?

Answer: We all know there is nothing as “perfect”, humans are designed that way, in my believe. However, the ideal would be away from the chaos of world, somewhere in nature, mountains perhaps, cold would be nice lol.

6. You can travel back in time, what year you would choose and why?

Answer:  I ain’t turning back 🙂 even if to just view, what’s gone must remain gone. Don’t want to come back to present with more of past attached to my mind.

7. Space, Solitude, Silence. Choose one and why?

Answer: Silence, always. I find peace within the stillness, that’s why.

8. Is there life elsewhere in universe?

Answer: I would like to believe so or I would be truly heart broken.

9. You have to plan a surprise for your best friend, but you are broke. What will you plan?

Answer: I don’t have best friends, I find it too cliche of a label ( a personal opinion) but yes I have a handful of close friends, and being broke is never a problem xD I’ll write them a poem and give them a hug. They know me well enough to know how I don’t believe in grand gestures and big plans 🙂

10. One of your friends, with whom you were not in contact for many years, meets you somewhere and starts cursing you. How will you tackle the situation?

Answer: Smile and walk away xD


My list of questions and nominations are as follows:

1. Do you believe in second chances?
2. Are you satisfied with who you are, today?
3 .Any certain religious philosophy or concept you completely believe in?
4. If given a chance to be any famous literary author from history for one day, who will you choose and why?
5. One thing that annoys you the most about other people?
6. Being “truly yourself”, what does that mean to you?
7. If you could change one thing about the world, what will it be?
8. How do you express sadness?
9. Where would you like to travel, if given a chance to do so?
10. Your favourite time of day/ night, why?

Nominations:
1. Dan
2. Shreya
3. Paul
4. Maryam
5. Ayushi
6. Shubhada
7. Mani
8. Lumen
9. George
10. Prateek


Thank-you once again Kri <3, good luck to all the nominations and as always, there is no compulsion to participate but I’d love to read your answers if you participate.

Blessings

Starlight Award

Hola lovelies!

One of my dearest and most favourite sister’s here nominated me for the “Starlight Award“, thank-you Kri as always. I’m honoured and I cannot apologize enough for how long I have taken to get back and respond to the nomination. I apologize for the delay. People do check out her blog, she is one of most talented and versatile bloggers out here that I know ❤


Nominations Rules:

Nominate your 6 favorite bloggers! In your nominees I would like for you to think at the light emanating from the stars the ones that truly touch your soul with their work, the ones that are the light for you a true STARLIGHT Blogger.


This Award is created to highlight and promote Inspiring Bloggers.
This Award is created to highlight and promote Inspiring Bloggers.

Rules for the STARLIGHT Blogger Award:

1. Thank the giver and link their Blog to your post.
2. Answer the 3 questions given to you.
3. Please Pass the award on to 6 or more other Bloggers of your choice and let them know that they have been nominated by you.
4. Include the logo of the award in a post or on your Blog please never alter the logo and never change the rules.

Please don’t delete this note: the design for the STARLIGHT Bloggers Award has been created from YesterdayAfter is a Copyright image you cannot alter or change it in any way just pass it to others that deserve this award.
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Questions I was given:

1. How do you deal with a situation where you have nothing to write but want to write?

Answer: Honestly, I have no clue. I have never experienced what we call “Writer’s Block”. Words come easy and the desire to write is always strong, like I say that words are home for me and perhaps I have never encountered such a situation for how you can ever forget your way to your home? 🙂

2. What changes (if any) blogging has brought in you?

Answer: I do think blogging has brought a change in me, for one I have finally realized how important writing was to me, something I was pushed to do by a few close friends (still very few friends are aware of the blog I maintain) who thought I needed this and I had a way with words. Yet, I didn’t believe in my ability to write but my need to vent and let things out and here we are today. I have so many friends across the globe, I have eventually learned to broaden on topics I write and on most days am able to disconnect what I write from how I might actually be feeling. I’m still learning and got a long way to go but yes, diversity is important from where I stand now.

3. What would you like the legacy of your work to be?

Answer: Most of you’re aware that my line of work has nothing to do with writing/literature at all. In-fact, there is nothing in common with what I do in my daily life and there is too big of a disconnect. However, I sincerely hope and pray that some day I will have the opportunity to write professionally and make a difference to some lives. I’m not looking for fame, I’m the sort of person who stays away from any attention but I’d like my words to be heard and maybe they could leave a lasting impression on somebody.


My nominations:

1. Kirsty (I miss you, come back already)
2. Blondeusk
3. Dan
4. Will
5. Annie
6. Paul

My questions for you guys

1. If you could turn back time, would you? why/why not.
2. Will you kill someone to save a loved one? (given you had no other options)
3. One of your deepest fears is?


Note: Thank-you Kri again, I know I have another post to respond to, bear with me 🙂 I’m grateful for the nomination and for the nominees; good-luck guys, as always feel free to participate or not but I’d love to see your responses.

Blessings to all.<3

Enchanted

He is mesmerized by her charm
Her laughter like the tinkling of
Whispers made in secret at night
The smile seems to radiate love
As he tries to understand her life
The reasons that keep her going
Makes him wonder the strength
She carries in her petite figure
Like a magnet she is surrounded
By people who wish to know her
But those eyes hold the deepest
Secrets he wishes to know but
Nobody ever gets close enough to
Understand her as a person for
All they see is a persona, a figment
Of their dreams which is obscure
He sighs wishing if he could feel
The softness of her hair flowing
Like waves of an ocean that pull
You towards themselves but knows
He is just another number for her
He hears her footsteps approaching
His table like she does everyday
Greeting him and giving him a hug
Dazzled by her perfect features and
Her too good to be true life, wondering
If this was a castle of sand only that
She carried gracefully on her shoulders
Or was she hiding behind something

Sunrise

The sun rises everyday
Despite how the day ends
It rises above everything
Never giving up even if
It knows how its day will
End but that never stops
It from shinning the next
Day for it doesn’t focuses
On giving up rather a new
Chance each day to shine
And makes lives of many
Warm with love and care
As I watch the sun’s cycle
I can see the resilience
With which it never lets
Anything come in its way
Giving me the patience
To not let the day’s worries
Stop me from trying the
Next day and again till
I achieve what I have to
For it will take time and
Restraint to not break
Under consistent pressure
But those who learn to live
Through troubles smiling
Eventually make their mark

Versatile Blogger Award!

Here it goes again!

I can’t begin to describe how blessed and loved I feel by all these award nominations that keep coming my way, no matter how much thanks I say, I know it’s not enough.  This time, I’ve been nominated by this absolutely amazing artist, who draws such beautiful sketches that you will not stop once you start going over her stuff <3, Esra Aysuthank-you for the nominations. I’m grateful for it. Please keep drawing and sharing your stuff, guys please go visit her page to see what magic she creates ❤


Rules of the award:

1. Thank the person who gave you this award
2. Include a link to their blog
3. Next, select 15 blogs/bloggers that you follow and love
4. Nominate those 15 bloggers for the Versatile Blogger Award
5. Finally, tell 7 things about yourself. ( I have been given seven questions to answer this time with this award)


Here goes

1.If you are to witness/experience something paranormal/supernatural would you share it with someone or would you keep it to yourself?

1. I’d keep it to myself, not everything is meant to be shared 🙂

2.Who are your top three poet or writer? (you can write both)

2. Charles Bukowski, Sylvia Plath, Pablo Neruda, Vladimir Nabokov, Anne Sexton and George Orwell (Sorry can’t number or narrow them down more than this)

3.Do you collect something?If “yes” then;what do you collect?

3. I collect poems and quotes.

4.Is there any language/languages you wish you knew,if there is then which one/ones?

4. Well …I’d like to learn Arabic, Roman and Hebrew (Maybe, I’m not sure)

5.Just imagine,beyond black holes;what would you wish there to be?

5. Silence, absolute void and silence within stillness

6.Anything you miss which has become obsolete?

6. Human value 🙂

7.Is there a movie you recommend viewing? What is it?

Movie recommendation can be quite a long list, here are few of my favourite Schindler’s list, The shawshank redemption, Forest Gump, A clockwork Orange and Casablanca.

I can go on for quite sometime with the list but recommending one is too difficult 🙂


Thank-you once again Esra! Really, all these awards mean a lot and encourage me to keep on writing every day ❤
As always, the nomination ground is open for whoever wants to participate and feel free to share any 7 facts you may wish for the blogger community to know about you 🙂

Much Love & Blessings to you all,
B

Very Inspiring Blogger Award – AGAIN!!

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You guys keep making my days and I can’t thank you guys enough for all the love you send my way. This time I’ve been nominated for ‘Very Inspiring Blogger Award‘ by Geethu and Kri, both these lovelies are my absolute sweethearts ❤ and have tremendous writing power. I would be grateful if all of the readers can drop by and check out there pages, in case you haven’t already 🙂

The rules of the Award

  • Thank the person who nominated you for the award
  • Add the logo to your post
  • Nominate ten (10) bloggers you admire and inform them of the nomination

My list of nominations for the award in no particular order:

1. Will: williamleeone.wordpress.com
2. Arwen: https://elpislazuli.wordpress.com/
3. Blondeusk: https://blondewritemore.wordpress.com/
4. Chris: https://chrisnelson61.wordpress.com/
5. Randstein: https://hyperionsturm.wordpress.com
6. Kirsty: https://kirstydavies1990.wordpress.com/

Thank-you for the nominations once again my beauties and apologies for taking this long to revert on the nominations 🙂 Anybody else who feels like being part of this, feel free to join the award. All of you’re an inspiration for me, the encouragement to come back here every day and share a few words and thoughts with you all is something I look forward to.

Blessings to you all.

Sisterhood of the World Blogger Award

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The awards just never stop or more like the love never just stops pouring in here :), Kirsty has yet again nominated me for another award and this time it’s super special xD why? Because it’s the “Sisterhood of the World Blogger Award” ❤
To be part of a global writing sisterhood community, can’t ask for more than that 🙂 Thank-you so much Kirsty, for all the love and kind words you keep sending my way. You never fail to make me smile 🙂

As always, let’s begin with the rules of the award:

  • Thank the giver and link their blog to your post.
  • Answer the 10 questions given to you.
  • Pass the award on to 7 other bloggers of their choice and let them know that they have been nominated.
  • Include the logo of the award in a post or on your blog

Answering my questions

1. Is there something you have tried, but will never try again?

Honestly, can’t think of anything that was so regretful that I decided to never go near it again 🙂

2. Do you have a quirky habit?

Yes, I like collecting weird masks and gas masks picture, I also have a peculiar interest in surrealism.

3. What is your favourite memory as a child?

I was always a-lot in to sports but as I have grown older, I barely have anytime to do that any more. All the memories involving playing any sort of game from cricket to football to throwball, well all are my favourite 🙂

4.Who is your best friend? NOT lover/partner.

I have a very small social circle, among them a few very close friends but I can’t pick one person and say, “this is it” 🙂 I’m weird like that.

5. What would your dream date be?

That’s probably the most difficult question for me considering I’m a million miles away from romance but well a casual talk about books over coffee/tea, basically allowing me to be truly myself. Yes, I don’t want any flowers or grand gestures lol.

6. What is the worst thing about dating?

Not an expert on this so I’ll broaden the question a little (I apologise), I think the worst thing about any relationships that comes between two people is a set of expectations they build without ever communicating and then things start falling apart.

7, What is one movie that has influenced your life?

None 🙂

8. Would you change anything about yourself?

Yes, I wish I could say ‘No’ to people, that’s one thing I still haven’t learned.

9. Who is your favourite celebrity?

Hugh Laurie

10 .What was your most embarrassing moment?

I can’t quote any specific moment but I’m generally awkward and just embarrassed in social gathering and can’t make proper conversations.


Now my nominations

1. Naima
2. Kri
3. Shambhavi
4. Vishakha (As promised, I hope this helps 🙂 )
5. Geet
6. Mani
7. Blondeusk

And here is the list of my questions for my lovely ladies:

1. On the bad days, how do you cheer yourself up?
2. Which is your favourite food?
3. How do you let go?
4. How much do you value ‘silence’?
5. Will you hurt someone intentionally or lie to make them feel better?
6. Do you have faith in humanity? why or why not?
7. One thing you really wish could come true?
8. If you had to sum up your life in 10 or less words, what would they be?
9. How do you express anger?
10. What is the one thing that will turn you completely off about a person?


Thank-you Kirsty again for this ❤ and for the nominations, I look forward to seeing your answers lovelies, as always there is no compulsion, anybody who is not up for answering, doesn’t have to do so 🙂